Yes, I am a little late for New Years. However, I still felt like writing this anyway. I hold a different view of New Years than I believe most people do. Some might say it's a little pessimistic, and maybe they are right. New Years is, obviously, a new year. It's a new beginning. Out with the old, in with the new. A time of resolutions and a revived since of optimism. To me, however, it is a day like any other-just with a different number that I will be adding to all my papers for the next 365 days. I may have a bland view of the New Year, but that doesn't mean that I don't take the excuse to celebrate ;) However, my bland view comes from a question- why do you need New Years to make a resolution? Why wait till then to get rid of what's holding you back and bringing you down? Why do so many seem to need New Years to better themselves? Why wait? Why not start today, right where you are- no matter what time of year it is.
If there is something holding you back, let it go now. If there is something bringing you down, get rid of it now-even if it hurts. Diamonds go through a hell of a lot of heat before they can shine their brightest.
Carpe diem! Seize each and every day. It won't always not be easy. You will have weak days, you will have days when you fail at your resolution. But guess what, it's okay. Each day is a new day. Each day brings its own challenges, as well as its own gifts. It brings us life and beauty. Celebrate each new day. Tackle one day at a time. Look at yourself and find those negative things that you need to get rid of to be the most beautiful and happy you that you can possibly be. Take the opportunities each day brings before you- no need to wait for the New Year.
Happy Thursday :)
Thursday, January 9, 2014
Sunday, January 5, 2014
Dodging Bullets
Have you ever been in a situation where you didn't get what you wanted? Or maybe a little worse, who you wanted. Everything seemed right, but for some reason it didn't work out the way you wanted to. As time passes, you eventually get over it. Sometimes, though, you realized what a bullet you dodged. That, my friends, is one of the greatest feelings.
For me, that just happened. I will spare the sob-story details because I don't feel like whining right now and it's quite obvious what took place. However, I now know how lucky am I. While it hurt like crazy when things didn't work out the way I wanted them to and the way I hoped and really thought they would. It's something I would think about all the time. It's something I just couldn't seem to get over. Very slowly, I seemed to be moving on. Every now and then, something would pull me back in. But eventually I was over it. Once I was out of the situation, I could see very clearly that I was the lucky one for not getting what I wanted. What I wanted was neither good for me, nor good enough for me. I deserve a lot more and a lot better than what I was getting. Every girl deserves better than what I was getting. Knowing and accepting made me feel so much better about myself. A recent discovery though, affirmed a hundred fold what I had come to grips with. I realized in anger, resentment, disbelief at my own naivety and stupidity, but also with satisfaction and thankfulness that I had been spared a headache and an even worse heartache. It was something I couldn't see at all when I was in the midst of it. But now, now I can't believe how true it was that I was the lucky one.
So my friends, when someone says "When one door closes, another one opens", "it all works out for the best", or whatever the cliche you are given as a sorry attempt to make you feel better- it's actually true. Yeah, it doesn't make you feel any better or make you see things any more clearly. But I promise, it's true. Be strong, remember what you DESERVE, respect yourself, and hold your head up high. I promise, you're probably dodging a very, very messy and painful bullet.
For me, that just happened. I will spare the sob-story details because I don't feel like whining right now and it's quite obvious what took place. However, I now know how lucky am I. While it hurt like crazy when things didn't work out the way I wanted them to and the way I hoped and really thought they would. It's something I would think about all the time. It's something I just couldn't seem to get over. Very slowly, I seemed to be moving on. Every now and then, something would pull me back in. But eventually I was over it. Once I was out of the situation, I could see very clearly that I was the lucky one for not getting what I wanted. What I wanted was neither good for me, nor good enough for me. I deserve a lot more and a lot better than what I was getting. Every girl deserves better than what I was getting. Knowing and accepting made me feel so much better about myself. A recent discovery though, affirmed a hundred fold what I had come to grips with. I realized in anger, resentment, disbelief at my own naivety and stupidity, but also with satisfaction and thankfulness that I had been spared a headache and an even worse heartache. It was something I couldn't see at all when I was in the midst of it. But now, now I can't believe how true it was that I was the lucky one.
So my friends, when someone says "When one door closes, another one opens", "it all works out for the best", or whatever the cliche you are given as a sorry attempt to make you feel better- it's actually true. Yeah, it doesn't make you feel any better or make you see things any more clearly. But I promise, it's true. Be strong, remember what you DESERVE, respect yourself, and hold your head up high. I promise, you're probably dodging a very, very messy and painful bullet.
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